tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711149105485383861.post4762013239387484945..comments2023-05-02T07:01:13.436-04:00Comments on Piranha Chicken: Familiarity is not IntimacyDomaknitrixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02400489609251107502noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711149105485383861.post-43625354024983536002017-05-18T17:04:54.200-04:002017-05-18T17:04:54.200-04:00As someone who has had more than my fair share of ...As someone who has had more than my fair share of long term relationship challenges, I'll offer a bit of advice (I would say unsolicited advice, but you have a public blog): IMHO, the key to successful relationships with people who treat with you well with whom a connection can occur comes from two parts: <br />1.) You will never find the right person. You have to BE the right person. If you are on a search for someone to fit into a box, you will never find it. Successful relationships and intimacy come from being open to what the universe brings you and being the kind of person who is appealing to others, to the kind of people you hope to attract particularly. By optimizing yourself, you bring to the table a value that another quality person will see and appreciate. If you are trying to fit someone into a box of what you want, you are putting the focus externally (where none of us truly have any power) instead of internally (which is really the only control we have).<br />2.) Never be afraid to walk away and ever let yourself be so dependent that you can't walk away. Somehow, I've walked away from a number of people for whom I find not suitable to continue a relationship and ended up staying friends. Why? Because I don't view another person as a fundamentally flawed human being just because they aren't compatible with me in a relationship. We all have flaws and bullshit (it's just what bullshit is actually compatible). Maybe another aspect to look inward as well. It is quite empowering. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com